Why
I am reading Christine Mason Miller’s book. My mom bought a copy and sent it to me, thank you mom, thank you, I have wanted this since the moment it was printed, and thank you Christina for writing it. Near the first pages of the book Christina writes about how we are expected to do things in order: 1. Go to School, 2. Get Married, 3. Have Babies (at least pets)., 4. Have a career, 5. Retire, 6. Enjoy life. And she is spot on, but why? Why do we need to wait until number 6 to enjoy life? Why are there these expected orders, why when we are anywhere from 25-55 our good and worth and self is associated only with our jobs/careers. Why do we ask this question first when meeting someone “What do you do for a living?” Is it really that to all of us making a living is that much of a mystery we must know how another does it, or are we really that interested in money and “making a living?” What if we asked someone what their dreams were instead, or what they loved, or what they celebrated? What if our worth was valued instead of on a job/career on our selves, our joy, pain and dreams. What if we celebrated the detours in life and enjoyed the moment instead of focusing on a order, on a ridged grid of what someone believes life should be.